You Don’t Need to Find Your Voice.. You Need to Remember It: Reclaiming Self-Trust, Inner Power, and Presence Beyond Performance

We’re told to go out and find our voice. Like it’s hiding somewhere in the world, tucked between external validation, gold stars, and curated identities. Like it’s something waiting to be earned, fixed, polished, or rescued.

But I’ve come to know that’s far from true: You don’t find your voice. You remember it.

And remembering doesn’t feel like a triumph. It feels like a quiet, foggy Deja Vu and like a long awaited return home. It happens in the moments when everything else falls away, when the masks are too heavy, the roles too rigid, and the performance too loud. It happens when the striving burns out and you're left standing in the ashes, holding the simplest truth:

“I can’t keep abandoning myself to be accepted…”

The Cost of Forgetting

We don’t forget our voice overnight. We forget it quietly, in pieces.

When we say yes while our body screams no.
When we stay silent to keep the peace, even though it costs us ours.
When we overextend, over-give, over-function, believing love must be earned through usefulness.
When we make ourselves small so others feel comfortable.

And slowly, that internal voice.. the one that once knew exactly who you were, starts to go quiet. Not because it left, but because you stopped listening.

You tuned into everyone else’s volume, mistaking noise for guidance. You learned to survive by blending in, by shrinking, by being “easy” to love. But survival isn’t the same as living and shrinking isn’t the same as peace.

The Myth of Power and the Truth of Presence

We often think power is about force. About control, asserting, dominating, winning. We’re taught to push back, prove ourselves, take up space loudly.

But real power doesn’t need to be performed. It doesn’t raise its voice. It doesn’t seek attention. It doesn't flinch when misunderstood.

Real power lives in stillness. In clarity. In the quiet conviction of someone who no longer needs to betray themselves to belong.

True strength isn’t reactive. It’s responsive. Rooted. Whole. It doesn’t grasp for control, it anchors in presence and when the world pushes, it doesn’t push back because it knows who it is. You don’t need to state your power. You just need to act from it.

Remembering the Pause

There’s a powerful moment that happens in one's journey when the urge fades. You stop running. You stop fixing. You stop contorting. You stop proving.

And in that pause, something ancient and true rises from within you. Something you didn’t know you were missing until you heard it again: A steady, commanding whisper. Your voice.

Not the one shaped by who the world told you to be, but the one that always knew who you are. The one that remembers your wholeness. Your boundaries. Your worth. And in that moment, you realise: it was never gone. It was just quiet, waiting and patiently watching to see when you’d be ready to listen again.

The Journey Back Is Not a Performance

Let’s be clear, unfortunately coming home to yourself isn’t glamorous. It doesn’t always feel empowering. It often looks like grief. Like discomfort. Like unravelling.

You’ll often question what’s real… mourn the time you spent performing.
You’ll feel the weight of all the ways you abandoned your own knowing.

In some moments when you feel the weight pressing down you’ll find that you might want nothing more than to run back to what was easier, familiar and comfortable because growth is confronting. It causes you to stretch, tear and collapse unstable foundations in order to rebuild new ones firmly anchored solely in self

That’s the path of coming home. That’s the work. That’s the remembering.

And if you can stay.. through the discomfort, the silence, the unfamiliarity, you’ll meet something extraordinary: Your own presence. Unshaken. Unmasked. Undeniable.

You Don’t Need to Become More You Need to Become You

The voice you're searching for isn’t out there in a book, a course, a title, or someone else’s approval. It's not in being more palatable, more pleasing, more productive.

It’s in you. Beneath the noise, the roles and the shoulds.

You don’t need to become someone new, you just need to return to yourself.

And that voice?

It will rise when you’re no longer afraid to hear it, when you're no longer invested in fitting in, when you remember that peace doesn’t come from pleasing and it comes from presence.

This Is What Coming Home Feels Like

Coming home is not a destination. It’s a state of being…

It’s the feeling of breathing deeply without explaining why.
Of saying no without guilt.
Allowing discomfort without rescuing others from theirs.

Of choosing truth over approval.
And the courage to be seen, not for what you do, but for who you are.

Remember It’s not about being louder, It’s all about just being real.

And the more you return, the more you’ll hear that quiet, unwavering voice reminding you:

That you were never too much, you were never not enough, you were never lost, you were just waiting for yourself to come back.

If This Stirred Something in You…

If something in you whispered “this is me” as you read this I want you to know:

That’s not just resonance, that’s your voice knocking.
That’s your soul asking: “Are you ready to come home?”

This is the work I do and just one of the many ways I help clients! I hold space for women who are done performing.
Who are ready to stop abandoning themselves just to be accepted, learning to listen inward, rebuild safety, and reclaim the voice that was never truly lost.

If you're ready to stop shrinking to fit a life that was never built for your truth, to walk the path back to your wholeness, I would be honoured to walk with you. Reach out and lets start a conversation!

Explore my 1:1 coaching offerings and let’s begin the quiet, powerful work of remembering who you are, because you don’t need to become more, you just need to come back to yourself.

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You are not too much. You are not behind. You are right on time… and your voice is waiting.